Success—whether in life, ministry, or business—is often measured by things that, in the end, don’t really matter. We chase accomplishments, build systems, and push toward progress, believing that these are the things that define our impact. But are they?

I was at a funeral recently for someone who had lived a long and full life. He had a wonderful family, meaningful accomplishments, and a legacy of hard work. But as I sat there listening to people share memories, I noticed something: no one talked about the big things.

No one mentioned awards, titles, projects, or success metrics. Instead, they talked about who he was—his kindness, his small but intentional gestures, the way he made people feel. It wasn’t the grand achievements that shaped his legacy. It was the seemingly small moments that truly mattered.

That moment reminded me of how easy it is to get caught up in the things that seem urgent but ultimately don’t define our impact. We move so fast, trying to accomplish so much, that we often miss the moments that matter most.

Are We Prioritizing the Wrong Things?

Ministry is full of important work. People rely on us, and we carry heavy responsibilities. But if we’re not careful, the work itself can become the priority—at the expense of the relationships that give it meaning.

What if some of the “good” things we do are actually distractions from what’s truly important?

• The extra hours spent perfecting a sermon while missing bedtime with your kids.
• The endless meetings that push meaningful conversations with your spouse to the back burner.
• The drive for church growth that leaves little time for personal discipleship and connection.

None of these things are inherently bad. But when they take precedence over the people and moments that truly matter, we’re sacrificing something far greater.

What Do You Need to Let Go?

Take a moment to reflect. What are the good things you’re doing that—when measured in the grand scheme—don’t really matter? What are you holding onto that might be keeping you from the relationships and moments that do?

Here’s a challenge: Start saying no to the good things that don’t matter so you can say yes to the great things that do.

• Prioritize presence over productivity.
• Choose connection over constant busyness.
• Focus on the small, meaningful moments that will be remembered long after the work is done.

At the end of the day, success isn’t about what we accomplish—it’s about who we are and how we love the people around us. Let’s not miss what truly matters.